I do not condone animal cruelty in any way. Please stay on topic. Thank you.
Harsh words? I think my readers have the intelligence to see the truth here. If one looks closely you will see, that it is not I who is the villain, but the one who spreads pain unto others.
The German word for pity is Mitleid, which literally means “suffering with”. There is nothing gained by feeling pity, no direct or indirect positive bi-product. It can only results in a loss of will, which can develop into a negative state like depression. Sometimes it may be advantageous to express pity, but feeling it should always be avoided. This society prizes the emotion. It is the highest virtue of the weak and stupid. You see, the wretched creature will bemoan and lament his misfortune to those around him in an attempt to evoke pain from them. This is his only power, the power to make his friend suffer. “Ah” he thinks “I am important enough to cause another pain” and in this realization he feels pleasure. This is the true sadist, he that gains pleasure from inflicting pain.
I think we all have known someone like this. A whimpering creature, crying at all hours of the day and night about their “miserable” situation. They will break their own bones for your attention. I have seen it, the tantrums, the screaming, even the false suicide attempts. I am not saying to withhold help from a friend if he or she genuinely needs it. This is a completely different situation, please do not confuse the two. I am speaking of the individual who does nothing to improve their life.
I had an acquaintance who will remain nameless. She was unhappy with her life, and would cry to me night after night. Yet she did nothing to improve her situation. She had time and opportunity to change her life, she was simply lazy. It became apparent that this person had no intention of improving her situation and was simply seeking my pity, to stir emotion. I saw the negative effects it had in my life and I severed ties with her. I will help the willing and persistent but I have no tolerance for the weak.
Do not let them move you, do not let them tear you down. Leave them to die in the world they have created.
Morbidly Yours,
Morgue
Agree or disagree? Have you known someone like this? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.
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agree and yesh i have known some one like dat
Sounds just like my ex wife and her mother needless 2 say after 17 years of marriage I’d had enough your dead on.
God, that sounds like my mother. Even when we did get out of the life she complained and whined so much about, she decided to go back to it. Nothing more important to her than using others to feel falsely secure. She decided to go back, let’s just say I don’t live with her anymore or bother myself with her situation.
Thanks for posting this. It is both beautiful and inspiring. I adore you!
Pity and Empathy are so different but so much the same.
Empathy, Pity, Compassion, are all considered to be synonyms, but I don’t see it. You see something and you pity it, you feel sad for them. When you empathize, you feel their pain, and when you have compassion, you want to make it better.
Every time you hear the same situation, you become a little less compassionate. A little less empathetic. “Oh that’s sad, I’m sorry”… The words of a drone. Waste of your time.
I’m getting a little off topic. Conclusively I say Empathy and Compassion are useful, those that seek pity are not worth your time, or your oxygen. Those that desire help are worth your benevolence, your charity, whatever it is they need, and isn’t that why we feel these emotions? To help each other to be the best we can be? Or are none of us selfless? Only thinking of ourselves?
Life is NOT supposed to be a pyramid scheme.
I used to have a friend, let’s call her Anne… She seemed happy with her life and she was a wonderful young girl, fun to be around. Then she got into the whole “emo” thing. She would cut her wrists, whine, and tell everyone life was not worth living. Throughout all of this, she had a happy life. When she hung herself, she did it for attention, pity. Some say it was actually legit. I know for a fact it wasn’t. Sad. Pathetic. A waste of a beautiful young life. All because of the pity seeking, “emo” fad. She will be missed.
Unfortunately I must agree. I now people like this, recently it seems to have become a fad where I am. Cutting is rampant but like you say they aren’t even trying to help themselves. Its and attempts at popularity, at lease where I am, and all they do is seek sympathy, and words to help seam to slide off their backs. Thanks for posting this, it gives me another helpful perspective in this issue and I think I should separate myself from the situation, not abandon them, but wait till they really want to fix things.
I have encountered two people in my life who have tried to destroy me by using my pity against me. One was an ex-girlfriend that would threaten suicide (blaming me), used drugs, and lashed out against me for any minor disagreement. She was a depressed individual, on anti-depressants, and seeing a therapist. The other was a friend with similar circumstances who decided to tarnish my reputation with others so that she could better manipulate and control me. The only reason they held such control over me was because my pity for them and their circumstances overruled my ability to think. They never tried to improve their situation except by seeking out others to spread their emotional pain and covering up their lack of love of themselves by pushing themselves unto others. I cannot turn off my ability to feel pity and empathy for others but I have since learned not to allow them to use my feelings against me and have broken the chains that held me in their servitude. A lesson learned the hard way. I have to agree with the content of the article save your pity for those who deserve it such as friends and family who are actively trying to alter their misfortunes. Do not allow yourself to be consumed by the tornado of someone’s emotional instability!
Oh my, I totally agree. I have a best friend and she will do nothing but sit there and wine to me about a boy breaking up with her, saying how she is all alone. I say she should be happy to be single for a little while. She ALWAYS has a guy, and she almost never actually likes them. I explain that the being with someone isn’t always easy, I tell her about how me and my guy recently have fought, and trust me it ISN’T easy most of the time. Oh boy! It isn’t easy at all! I have split parents. Everyone dosen’t always get along and it can be a hell whole. But do I let it bother me?? NO! She has her loving parents, she is Mommy and Daddy’s little girl, she is pretty, and she could be really intelligent if she tried.
Anyways, she is always complaining about her life, saying how her parents mistreat her (ive been there, she is just lazy and doesnt like chores), boys hate her (she breaks up with them over one little flaw, and they DONT hate her!), No one understands her (its pretty hard to be, when she isn’t being her self, no copying me), and on and on and on. It’s to the point where i don’t want to to her anymore because she just brings me down so much. And when I tell her all the things to be thankful for, or give her advice, she just gets shitty. She doesn’t want to help herself, and I’m done trying to show her the light.
Is that mean? I mean I have tried, but she just brings me down out of a good mood, and I can’t stand it. Plus she pisses me off with her petty lieing and the fact that she does like to copy everything I do. I wear my clothes because I like it, not because someone else does. And I get the stares and people ask me about my black lipstick and stuff, do I care? No, but…ahh! Morgue! You have to know and understand what I’m saying here! Reference to the “Strangle the Bitch” you wrote a few weeks back. right??
This is the most idiotic thing ever written by mankind.
How can you make your own situation better by not feeling pity and not trying to help one another.
If you feel pity for someone, you can help this person to make him or her feel better. You can try to imagine what his or her situation is like, to do something about it. To understand them. To help them.
The German word for pity is mitleid. This, translated in the way the word is used, and what the world actually means, is “Living with”. It simply refers to the fact that little piece of your life you are trying to understand what another person feels. If you are either not smart enough to know what he feels, or not strong enough to handle what he feels, you are in no situation to help him anyway.
I think not even trying to understand how someone else feels is a defense mechanism for the weak. Trying not to visualize a messy situation because he or she is scared he cannot handle it. Not feeling pity for another person on this world, is the weakest thing you can do.
And I don’t know if you ever had any friends, but if I felt bad and my friends felt pity, they helped to make me feel good in no time.
Maybe you should get some experiance in social life, before crying out some jibberish on the internet.
But I respect your opinion, though I do not agree.
I also find it rude to spit out such negativity of human emotions into other people their faces.
actually you entirely missed the point… he clearly says in the article there is a difference between what your saying and what hes saying… hes saying never give pity to the weak who are only in the situation for pity and people who try to abuse your pity to bring you down to their level because they are blatently incapable of rising up to your level, or too lazy to do so dont pity those who put themselves in those situations
Whoa. You hit close to home base. Just today I had a friend over and she brings out the worst of me. I’m usually not very sharp tongued, but she irks me. She is way too touchy-touchy and I like my seclusion. She whines about everything. Our moms are friends, so that is how it happened. I remember when I was three I tried to drown her in a pool because she was trying to boss me around. As I recall, I was winning. She might be coming to my school soon. I don’t like anyone knowing very much about me and I can be tried as an adult if I seriously harm her. What do I do?
1) Get the balls to be honest with her.
2) Try to understand her.
3) Help her.
Don’t be egoistic. Don’t think you are the most important person on this world.
Accept the situation, be strong enough to change it into a situation that is better for everybody.
Or you know, listen to Morgue, “you are the most important person”. “Think about nothing but yourself”. “Kill her.”
Stuff like that you know.
I am honest, but it just blows up in my face. I try to understand her, but than I feel sick. My ego may be big and I may be cold, but I do care for people and I know that I am not the most important person in the world. When I’m with her I have to be the adult and it is truely maddening when she is only a few months younger than me. I try to help her, but she has higher needs than what I can give. I guess I can only avoid her. It is sad and maybe selfish, but I can’t do it anymore.
I used to know someone like that. Eventualy me andf the other people she was guilt tripping into hanging out with her, she threatened to spread rumors and pulled our heart strings, just had to tell her we needed personal time. It let us have time without her pulling us down but also allotted a little time to try and reason with her. We hung out with her enough so she didn’t think she was all alone but kept enough distance that she didn’t rule our lives and where able to deal with our own problems and not just hers. It may or may not work but that’s what we did. Good luck.
OMG poor pig! Why would you post such a heinous photo on your page and then say you don’t condone animal cruelty!! How can you show that filth!! AAAHH!!
Also, when are we having bacon?
I do agree in some ways but I find this rather insensitive(although now that I think of it, you probably won’t take that as a bad thing.) .
I agree that suffering with someone in itself does not help anything. I was actually arguing with my religion teacher the other day about this(I go to Catholic school because of the good art program, but unfortunately, taking religion is a necessity, although I try to make it interesting by pointing out every single inconsistency.) when we were discussing the phrase “blessed are the mourning”. I was saying that perhaps you should try to understand and help, but it’s pointless to mourn.
About your main point, I think back to myself and isn’t that what depression is or at least part of it? No desire to do anything, let alone improve your situation? I don’t tolerate people who pretend for attention, but really? I’ve experienced people growing weary of me when I was depressed, probably with good reason, but I’m not sure your reaction was the best, but of course it depends, I don’t know all the details. I realize I’m being extremely wishy-washy about this.
You know Morgue, I will agree with you 100% on the weak. Take my wife for instance, she would always be crying and complaining about her daughter (which by the way has stolen from us hundreds of times) and her brother (which is a drunk and does not want to improve his life in any means). I told her she had a choice, either forget about all the shit with her kid and brother and move forward, or she could just join them because I did not want to be drug down by any means. Well I know it may sound cruel and heartless, but you know, it is for the better that she realizes who is truly there for her. I am going somewhere with my life and she had the perfect opportunity to do the same, but alas she just does not get it. I love her dearly, after 14 years of being together, who wouldn’t, so that is why I told her to leave. Maybe she will understand, maybe she wont. Time will tell, and with that, I am moving forward, I hate staying in one spot too long, gets really old and tiring. It has only been a week, but in that weeks time, I have been more alive and more adept to what I need to do and focus upon. Thanks for the story.
So you ran because you did not want to help other people to be happy and free of addiction. You made your wife choose between helping their children, or leave the shit she made behind to run along with you.
What a strong man you are.
i don’t know people like that for now, but i’ll keep my eyes open
I understand what you’re trying to say my friend, because my classmates at school gripe about things they don’t understand and I try to help them but they’re so stupid and really ignorant about the dangers that go on in this world, especially when they’re drinking UNDER-AGED. However my mother tells me that if they want to waste their lives in a pub/bar/club for eternity then I should let them because its their choice. What I’m trying to say is, no matter how hard I try to help them understand they won’t listen to me. Am I trying too hard?
i’ve known many of them
but i guess that is my own fault ^^
and yes ^^ i’ll tell my friends , but i only tell them what happened and i do not need their help to get better!!!!! I do that myself! I’m the only one who can change me or the situation i’m in (if not, i’ll ask a friend for support, but i rather take matters into my own hands! what you do yourself 
you do best!!!)
i am carebear and i help lots of people XD
BUT i do really help those who need me for real or simply need me first (when there is someone who actually IS going to commit suicide)
I myself have a totally misserable life
i agree with you , but sometimes, it’s hard… if they’re good at playing the ‘game’ they will actually injure themselves and therefor i could care UNTILL i find it being fake! Then, i lose ALL trust, sympathy and whatever feeling for that person ^^ and tell them, you can lie to me, but you only have one chance for that, if i find out, i don’t even want to hear ABOUT you anymore, let alone from you
sorry for again a long text ^^
CareBear
xXx
Yes, these piece of shit swine will stink up your life and suck the very life and emotion from you; unless you comply to their every bidding. They offer you crumbs for the bread you feed them; Useless threads for the clothes you give them. It would be cheaper to pay for an expensive call girl; then to justify the sex you get from them verses the energy you put into the situation. If the leach makes you feel any form of guilt then throw them to the side of the road.
After posting for Facebook about my own weakness, I realized I was on the other end as well. I had a friend a long time ago that I enjoyed being around when she was happy. But a short time went by when I realized she was manipulating me to help her with everything. For example, she needed a ride to work since she didn’t drive. Well, I got a bad guilt trip when I told her my car was in the shop for the next few days, which wasn’t wrong. I had no ride to give. That’s when I realized that she was using me. Her actions got worse calling me drunk and stranded, things like that. The last time I helped her I brought her home to sober up, turns out she called a fuck buddy and alcohol pusher to pick her up at the house I just dropped her off. That’s when I told her to get herself out trouble. I won’t do it anymore. That was the last time I spoke to her.
Sadly enough, I know too well what you are talking about… Thinking back for some time, When I was in the clutches of depression myself, I acted like this for over a year… Then came a true friend of mine and pounded some serious sense into me…
I’m happy enough now. Not enough in that sense I’d stop increasing the happiness, but at least happy enough I don’t whine about it to anyone anymore. That “friend” of mine literally pounded me, drove me to martial arts in the need of them and now they’re the most important thing in my life…
Uh, went a little sidetrack now didn’t it… Anyways, I completely agree with you in this thing… As you could maybe quess, that incident didn’t leave me any choice to pity anyone anymore… Instead I help them by driving them to do something they might enjoy… they might not like it at first, but I think they’ll thank me in future, looking back just like I do…